The Sacred Feminine… (I mean who the hell is she anyway?)
There is a lot of talk these days about the Sacred Feminine.
And it is my opinion this is a damn good thing, yes indeed, she does need to be brought to the table in our conversations, in our thoughts and actions, to dance floors and to bedrooms and community gatherings and, yes please!!! the halls of parliament….
But who, and what, exactly is she?
Well, where to start? Most of us have been raised in a world that values logic and reason and results that can be measured, ideally in a laboratory by men in white coats…
Well guess what! The Sacred Feminine cannot be accessed through any of these means.
She is a mystery, a mystery that lives though our bodies, a mystery that cannot be measured, verified or validated. She is so obvious that we could forget to honour her; we could get so stuck in our heads that we forget to feel her in us, as us, dancing into existence through us.
She is the most natural thing in the world.
Indeed She is nature itself.
She speaks to us in our natural urges to nourish, to be nourished, to feel, to connect, to love, to be loved. She shows her face sometimes as a ferocious love that will do anything required to protect what is most important to us, or as a wildness that lives to express itself through our feelings, yearnings, movements and emotions.
And sometimes she is felt as a knowing that defies logic but is undeniable, a knowing that churns in our bellies and rumbles in our wombs and informs us when we are doing something that is just oh so wrong for us; or a glow that shines from within when we are walking the path of our deepest truth.
Yet none of this can be put under a microscope, or bottled, or sold or scientifically validated or categorized…..
But does that mean that SHE does not exist?
What many women are finding, in the playgrounds of their own bodies, in the deep intimacy of solo and shared lovemaking, in the wildness and intensity of their authentic emotional experience and in the increasingly popular Sacred Feminine circles where women come together to explore, embody and celebrate the Sacred Feminine within them…
What they are finding is that the Sacred Feminine is very much alive and well, in fact it kind of feels like she is waking up, stirring from a deep slumber, stretching her limbs, shaking us up and beckoning us to hurry up and get out of our heads and listen!
She is asking us to hurry up and do less and feel more and trust ourselves and trust her.
And so despite the completely illogical lunacy of it all (luna-moon-take note) getting a sense of the Sacred Feminine is surprisingly simple.
Our quest to know HER is all about listening.
To find her we need only to sink deeply into the wisdom of our own bodies, we get to know her intimately when we allow and embody our natural feminine qualities of receptivity, authenticity and compassion.
Quite simply our ability to know what the hell the sacred feminine is rests purely in our ability to feel her and become a vessel for her expression.
And this comes with a warning label; for when you let her in, nothing will ever be the same again….
Amongst other mysterious phenomena, life will never again be boring, sex will never be 2 dimensional, emotions will flow majestically and you will forget to apologize for who you are…. your emotional energy will be become a strong power that activates and clarifies, you will not dance in a conventionally sanctioned manner; it will be wild it will be delicious and the dance will come from deep within, people will notice that you have ‘something about you’. In your daily life you will know what to do from somewhere very much other than your head, you will feel unexplainably intimate with life, you will be filled with a love and wonder that rips you apart at the seams, and you will have signed up, better or for worse, for the adventure of your life….
And what do we do to receive this bounty? The following are points of guidance, they are signposts pointing the way to the living breathing undulating experience of the Sacred Feminine, to knowing her, feeling her, loving her, being her…. When you follow these guidelines all confusion drops away, she becomes closer and more real to you than anything else.
Feel free to interpret them as you wish, explore them in the living laboratory of your everyday life, add to them as you feel, and live them as you dare……
Be open and available to what you feel in your body right now.
Explore yourself, relentlessly and enthusiastically,
Allow the energy of life to flow through you in unexpected ways,
Receive love and let it touch every single part of you, deeply,
Give love, let it spill out uncensored and feed everything, including you,
Be yourself, even when you would rather present a more ‘pleasing’ picture,
Shine that incredible light that comes from very deep within, even when it feels hard to own,
Own your shadows too; those icky bits of you of which you are deeply ashamed; (bring them to the table too….)
Honour and express your needs, keep on determining what they are,
Connect to your wild nature,
Follow your heart out of the comfort zone and beyond,
Make the most of your capacity for pleasure, own it, explore it, grow it and honour it as a gift from HER,
Inquire into what leaks your energy, and find another way,
Nurture yourself and the life around you, meeting both as sacred and precious,
Trust the intelligence of the body, and as the beautiful American poetess Mary Oliver suggests in her exquisite poem”Allow the soft animal of your body to love what it loves…,”
Be both patient and persistent,
Allow life to teach you in both painful and pleasurable ways,
Invoke your authentic voice and give your greatest gifts, whatever that might look like for you,
Remain connected to both your inner world and present to the external reality,
Manifest beauty and harmony,
Invite in ease and flow,
Dance and sing your heart out, often
Honour divinity as a felt experience, unfolding moment by moment and steer clear of concepts about what spirituality ‘should’ look like,
Find the courage to be your totally imperfect self without shame,
Call up the devotion to ‘stay with it’ and keep opening,
Have the willingness to explore the rich terrain of the body and to surf the waves of the emotional tides,
Say yes to feeling lost and yes to the invitation to come back home.
The Sacred Feminine is there for you, in you, here are the questions she is asking you;
Are you accepting the invitation to feel?
Are you saying ‘fuck it’ and diving in anyway?
Are you getting drenched in the beauty of your being?
Are you doing what you want to do or what you think you should do?
Is your life a divine dance with the beloved?
With this recent surge in Sacred Feminine hype comes the potential for a vast array of bullshit, projections and misconceptions.
If you have developed a concept about what the Sacred Feminine is that makes you feel like you are somehow separate from ‘it’. If you think that you need to do something, or be something, to experience or earn ‘it’.
Then please throw that out and go back to square one.
Square one is-How do you feel, in your body, right now?
This is radical, this is beautiful, this is surprisingly challenging…yet it gets easier and yummier the more we give it a go.
We need to give it a go. Life on earth depends on it, and it would be a bleak place to be without the juiciness of the feminine. As woman ( and men!) we have a job to do, a joyful job, a labour of love, a path to dance on, a mystery to embody and unravel.
Act now and heed HER whispers,
One moment of felt truth at a time….