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How to move past fear and embody your inner goddess

Posted by on Feb 19, 2015

How to move past fear and embody your inner goddess

We spoke about how damn normal that is, how we all have our own versions of those stories. It was a beautiful sharing in which we could both reveal the ways that our fear works in us and closes us down. One of the women who has attended our ‘Sacred Succulence’ women’s workshops and retreats, and who is, in her words, exploring what succulence is to her, and how she can embody that more, was telling me on day 2 of a 3 day workshop about the voices in her head that tell her why everyone else is sexier and more empowered than she is and tell her that maybe she should just give up and go home and get back into her comfort zone… Then the next time we spoke was the last morning of the 3 day workshop and something big had obviously shifted, she was standing taller, she was swinging her hips and smiling brightly and had obviously stepped into her goddess self. She looked at me and saw that I was seeing her, really seeing her and recognising her dramatic shift into her goddess self, and she said ‘yes-why not?’ Indeed..why not? 2000 years of repression of the feminine is no longer a good enough excuse as to why we would make ourselves small. Those voices inside our heads that have nothing but negative criticism also need not be a reason for not saying YES to embodying our own power, beauty and sensuality. The fear that our own power and sensuality is scary, selfish, inaccessible or lacking, need also not be a stumbling block that prevents us from connecting to our feminine essence and power.  What I love the most about my work in holding spaces for women to activate and explore their feminine energy is that women can feel safe enough to go beyond those voices and begin to discover for themselves what succulence, sensuality and feminine power looks like and feels like for them.   In these workshops and retreats we provide the space for women to explore what living as a goddess looks like and feels like for them, we are all a different flavour of goddess energy and we need to know, respect and claim our unique qualities. Women might come in with the idea that they want to fit an image of what ‘sexy’ and ‘powerful’ and ‘succulent’ looks like and that they need...

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Wildness- the pre requisite for sanity…4 ways to call back your wild woman.

Posted by on Jul 13, 2014

Wildness- the pre requisite for sanity…4 ways to call back your wild woman.

Underneath it all, we are wild and we know it. —Reggie Ray, Buddhist scholar Yes we are, why on earth do we try and fool ourselves into thinking that we were made to sit on chairs looking at screens for hours at a time? Why do we deprive ourselves from our primal knowing and the wild one within? And why are we surprised at the consequences of this? Of ignoring our natural needs and impulses? When laziness, apathy, depression, low libido, overwhelm and confusion sets in, it is often because we have lacked to connect to and honour our wildness. Our animal bodies, our sensual nature, our primal need for connection with earth and spirit, these need to be prioritized in the face of the conditions of the crazy modern world. Really, our wildness is a pre requisite for sanity for when we know our place in our bodies, in the world then we have a firm ground on which to navigate life’s constant challenges. Nature connection is the great ‘fast track’ back to wildness, the simple act of connecting with the feel of earth beneath our feet will ‘bring us back’ but here are some other fantastic ways to reconnect, to call back the wild woman (or man) and the incredible vitality that she brings. 1.Rough and tumble. We think we are all grown up; in fact perhaps we have just become deadened stifled versions of who we really are. A bit of rough and tumble can sort that one out…. Humans, like animals, need to PLAY! We need to enter into that instinctual physical messing around mode, it wakes us up, it loosens us up, it ignites our passion and embodied awareness as free beings only ‘acting’ as responsible humans…. I recently spent time with a man who was happy to wrestle on the ground, roll down hills and laugh like children, It was pure medicine, there is nothing like finding a man who never acts like you are ‘too much’. I got so high on ‘rough and tumble’ that sweet feelings of happiness and freedom started ping ponging through my being. I felt free, a happy little girl, a playful animal. It felt like home. Rough and tumble is best a shared experience, wrestling, rolling, wriggling, squealing, any playful illogical behavior that is FUN falls under this category, I cannot recommend it enough….find a lover, sister or brother...

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Opening to intimacy-How to be both strong and soft and open to love

Posted by on Mar 14, 2014

Opening to intimacy-How to be both strong and soft and open to love

Like many women I suffered what I call ‘ strong woman syndrome’ I spent years in India as a solo woman traveller. Walking the busy streets, I learnt to keep my energy contained, to stay in my centre, to hold myself, protect myself. I have learnt to pull out kali (ferocious feminine energy) when I need her and to cope in many different challenging circumstances. Basically, i activated ‘The Divine Warrioress’ within me and she has served me well. This connection to my Wild Woman strength helps me to create healthy boundaries and own my worth and speak my truth with confidence. What i have found is that the journey does not stop there, oh no. Because I, like most women, yearn for intimacy…. I do not want to be so strong and self sufficient that I am guarded against receiving love…. I want ‘The Sacred Lover’ within me to dance with abandon and be seen and enjoyed by the masculine, and i want to receive adoration not from neediness but from a place of self love. I want to feel deep pleasure and immerse myself fully in the sensations that take me out of my head and into a state of blissful union and surrender.  I want to be seen and acknowledged as a beautiful woman, to receive and share the gift of love- like i was born to do! Not only that, but I do not want to lose myself in the process. So how to find this delicate balance between  the Divine Warrioress and the Sacred Lover and allow them both to support us in living a next level life, and to experience next level love.  How to feel so safe in ourselves that we can completely lost control? This week following practices are playful pointers in this wild exploration of the fusion of softness and strength , warrioress and lover. 1. Practice creating a feeling of safety in your own body, Life is unpredictable; to be really happy we need to be cool with being alone and also be open to connect deeply with others. I know for myself I have spent long periods of time ‘holding’ myself.  I regularly spend quality time with myself tuning into the way that I feel, noticing when I begin to freak out and giving myself the ‘medicine’ of compassion and presence. When i see i am upset and overwhelmed...

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Things to do in the yoni-verse

Posted by on May 9, 2013

Things to do in the yoni-verse

Oh my! What a multi dimensional and multi orgasmic terrain there is to be discovered in the sexual organs of woman! Unfortunately many women are not as intimate with this terrain as they could be… Many women leave the explorations of this area to other people, yet what a fulfilling and enlightening journey it is to journey through ones own yoni-verse…   For those who have not yet cottoned on….’yoni’ is an ancient name for vagina, but more than that, yoni often refers to all of the female sexual organs, but more importantly than that, yoni is a Sanskrit word that means sacred space.   Generally modern women are not raised to approach their sexual organs as sacred space.   Some women speak about their yonis as ‘down there’. Others mindlessly stimulate their yonis in order to gain a fleeting respite from otherwise unremarkable lives. Others allow men to enter their sacred space without reverence or respect.   All of this indicates a sad state of affairs for human kind, fortunately though…yoni as sacred space is BACK (or rather it is being reclaimed) and women are finding that there are wonderful ways to celebrate their sexuality and evoke the sacred all at the same time.   Exploring the yoni-verse   Like many women I did not take the time to really get to know myself sexually, I left that to the men that I was with. Fortunately my path has brought me to discover the many wonderful tools and techniques of Tao Tantra to help me to cultivate and celebrate my sexual energy and pilgrimage through my own ‘yoni-verse’.     Tantra and Taoism originate from India and China back in the day when these cultures had a deep understanding of the power and preciousness of sexual energy. Both of these systems merge sexuality and spirituality through alchemical meditative practices that utilize our energetic pathways and capacity for feeling.   Women are such sensual, full- feeling creatures, rather than trying to transcend this we can utilize this. Our journeys in the yoni verse can be a meditation and our sexual energy becomes cosmic fuel for divine union.   Tantric and Taoist sexual practices aim to transform raw sexual energy into refined spiritual energy. The Tao Tantric arts, a fusion of these systems, offer us feminine practices guide us to heal, activate and celebrate our sexual organs and use our...

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