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How to be in your power as a woman AND be open to LOVE

Posted by on May 30, 2016

How to be in your power as a woman AND be open to LOVE

Insights for women on how to find that sweet balance between being strong, vulnerable and open. Do you know how it feels to be playful and open, and ALSO centered and connected? This fusion of softness and inner strength is an important key to feeling fulfilled as a woman, and if we bring these qualities into our relationships they tend to be nourishing and empowering and fulfilling. From working with SO many women I have noticed 2 kinds of patterns. The first I would call ‘un- boundary-ed women’. These are basically women with undefined boundaries, women who find it difficult to say no and tend to ‘lose themselves’ in relationships. These women are ‘too open’ in a way that leaves them disconnected from their inner source of wisdom and strength. This is one extreme. Where openness is not accompanied by firm inner roots connecting us to our self worth, our own needs and our unique voice. Then there are the women with what I call ‘strong women syndrome’. These women are disconnected from their feminine qualities in a way that hardens them and prevents them from being able to give and RECEIVE love freely and truly relax and let go of control in everyday life. Both of these patterns can block us from living in our power and creating healthy empowering relationships. Do you relate to this? Like many women I suffered what I call ‘ strong woman syndrome’. Through necessity I learnt to look after myself and cope in many different challenging circumstances. The connection to my inner ‘warrioress’ helped me to create healthy boundaries and own my worth and speak my truth with confidence. But the journey has not stopped there… Because I, like most women, yearn for intimacy…. I do not want to be so strong and self sufficient that I am guarded against receiving love…. I want to be acknowledged as a beautiful woman, to be seen and celebrated by the masculine and to receive appreciation, affirmation and love, not from neediness or disempowerment, but from a place of deep self love. And i want to ‘get out of my head’ and feel deep pleasure, blissful union and surrender…daily…. Not only that, but I do not want to ‘lose myself’ and my connection to my own power in the process…. Are you with me? So how do we find this delicate balance between the strong and...

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How womens workshops can connect you to your feminine power

Posted by on May 30, 2016

How womens workshops can connect you to your feminine power

  I have been lucky enough to facilitate womens workshops all over the world. And have witnessed profound transformations. I am witnessing women collectively waking up to their feminine power as well as the power of sisterhood. So why are womens workshops so powerful? and why are more and more women finding themselves drawn to them? Mainstream education, and even much modern yoga training, has failed to offer us the all-important guidance that we need to tap into the mystery and power within our feminine bodies. Without the support, guidance and the space to nurture this inner connection so many women report that they experience a profound disconnect from their feminine power. How do you know if you have lost connection to your feminine power?? *If your attention is continually directed to the critical voice in your head *If your time and energy is consumed in behaviours ,habits and relationships that are not nourishing, for example; over or under eating, comparing yourself to others constantly and worrying about what might happen. *If you give your power away through looking to others for approval or to fulfill your needs * if you apologise for who you are and shame your body *if you feel numb , stuck and constantly tired. What i am witnessing is that women are realising that there must be something more than this kind of reality, where we judge ourselves, we judge our bodies and we judge each other. We are collectively waking up to our deep desire to be unashamedly sensual and feminine We want to FEEL feminine AND we want to feel empowered, We want to feel free AND we want to feel safe to be truly ourselves We want to feel met, and expressed and sexually vibrant. In other words , we want to be in our feminine power And we are realise that to do this we need to be supported by our sisters… So how do we reconnect to our feminine power? Through working with hundreds of women,and through engaging passionately with my own life long study of feminine power. I would suggest that our feminine power is activated when we activate the feminine life force energy in our bodies- our ‘Shakti’. Shakti is an ancient sanskrit word for the feminine principle, it is feminine energy, it is also translated as power. As women we are embodiments of Shakti, our Shakti is our power. Due to a culture that has trained...

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Sisterhood (and bitchiness)

Posted by on Sep 16, 2015

Sisterhood (and bitchiness)

Everywhere I go I am blessed, loved and supported by incredible women. I realise that I have created the most valuable resource for myself, I have tapped into the awe-inspiring wellspring of support and love that is THE SISTERHOOD, and I benefit each and every day from this. Sometimes sister support comes in the form of a big hug, a supportive smile across the room a place to sleep, a lend of something I really need, a healing, a pep talk or a kick up the arse…… What I am finding is that I have a global tribe of women to support me and to midwife me through the dips and dives of of my life. Just when I need some support then invariably BOOM another gracious sister emerges to ground me, bless me and remind me of the greater truth in the situation. What did I do to receive this incredible bounty?  I committed to sisterhood, pure and simple To do this ….I had to learn to ‘show up’ more fully in myself, i had to explore the ways the i play ‘the separation game’  There were things I had to look at in myself; my insecurities, my fears, my projections. There have been many moments where I have had to make conscious choices. In a way claiming the sisterhood paradigm has been a process of committing to love.  I had a good honest look at how and why I fall into the trap of the bitchiness mind set. This is what I noticed… *I am only a bitch when I feel threatened or insecure. *I noticed that certain women would trigger my insecurities and they were usually quite similar to me ( a mirror in the form of a sister!). *In the event of being intimidated by another woman I noticed that i would try and convince myself that the woman in question was inferior to me in some way. *I noticed that if I was emotionally triggered by another woman that there was usually something to be learned from our glitchy connection; that we were ‘sent’ to each other to learn and grow in some way. (Once I ended up sharing a seat on a 40 hour train ride from south to north India with a woman who I had a challenging connection with! By the end of the journey we LOVED each other- true story). *I...

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Living Love- Reclaiming our Wild Sacred Knowing

Posted by on Jun 25, 2015

Living Love- Reclaiming our Wild Sacred Knowing

Our wild sacred feminine knowing is our connection to the depths of who we are. To live in relationship with, and receive guidance from, our inner wisdom is to honour and serve the divine feminine principal at a time when its very resurgence has the potential to transform consciousness and bring the world into a state of harmony for the next generations to enjoy. So how do we do this, how do we live in connection to love, being love, giving love, embodying love? and how do we reclaim our wild sacred knowing, our living connection to the Sacred Feminine?  The mainstream view of modern society is that we need to do something, be something, get something to have a life of meaning. It has us believe that  we need to control life rather than be a channel for aliveness .We only validate knowledge from ‘what is scientifically proven’ and fight against our bodies, we have forgotten to listen  It is obvious that the world suffers in the face of such an imbalance. The feminine wisdom that comes from our living experience offers us a completely different paradigm. The feminine  values and practices honour the qualities of receptivity and compassion, it values simplicity and  beauty and the sensual art of being. When we befriend and learn from embodied wisdom we transform ourselves and our lives follow suit. We literally embody the Sacred Feminine, bringing healing and balance to the world. The change that comes from within Before the change can come in the external world, before we can end the struggle ‘out there’ in the world around us we have to end the fight with self. And it all begins with the way that we relate to ourselves, it has everything to do with the way that we allow ourselves to be who we naturally are-or not. It usually requires a lot less effort and a lot more effortlessness, a lot less doing and trying and a lot more being and allowing. When we initially contemplate such a shift in direction and perspective we might feel fear or disbelief, if I stop ‘trying’ to be good and ‘trying’ to do good, wont I just get lazy, what will I do, how will I contribute? It can feel scary to let go of the reigns of control, but we must do this in order to feel that ‘something deeper’ that wellspring...

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Tantra 101 – 4 tips for daily life

Posted by on May 7, 2015

Tantra 101 – 4 tips for daily life

We think that the way out of our old patterns will be complicated. Secretly we want the release, we want to feel free, we want to feel alive, comfortable in our own skins and confident in our place on the earth. We crave this, yet we also fear this, we fear ourselves, we fear being exposed. We are conditioned to be afraid of life and our patterns keep those fears in place. We fear that perhaps we will never move past these patterns that hold us in fear and separation…we can begin to think that it will take a super powerful highly advanced technique to get us out of our old patterns and into an experience of freedom. As it turns out, the way beyond our patterns does not involve a complex magic trick, it does not come in the form of a special drug or a high salary or a mastery of a sexual technique or a fancy meditation technique or any technique for that matter… The cosmic joke is that we just need to REMEMBER HOW IT IS TO BE NATURAL! Is that all? That might seem overly simple, but the truth is that in our essence we are wild and sacred and naturally ‘plugged in’ beings governed by an incredible in-built intelligence. Most of us were not educated to listen and respond to this natural wild intelligence but there is a way of coming back to it. Basically. Tantra in my practice and understanding, is essentially a way of living and relating in which we embrace life and reclaim our natural spiritual wisdom and innocence. In innocence there is TRUST, there is playfulness, there is the ability to be vulnerable and open and SURRENDER to what feels alive in the moment. There is the willingness to go past ideas of right and wrong and our conditioned patterns to embrace life as it is and experience life in its fullness. Through Tantra we learn to BE with ourselves rather than run from ourselves. We shine a loving light of acceptance within so that our shadows can exist without being cut off from our deep heart. We learn to be transparent about what is really going on for us and in the process we learn to accept who we are, open more to more of what we are, and move beyond the fear that keeps us wrapped up...

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