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Why ‘spiritual’ men can be such a pain in the ass (& why we love them too)…..

Posted by on Oct 20, 2014

Why ‘spiritual’ men can be such a pain in the ass (& why we love them too)…..

Whilst recovering from an intense dual between Shakti and Shiva ,in the boxing ring of conscious relationship. I felt moved to share these insights. You may relate to them, you may not. Whatever you do, please take this lightly….  First of all i would like to clarify; the kind of men I refer to are the kind of men who are consciously ‘on the path’. And so for want of a better word, I call them ‘spiritual’ here, I am sure you know who I mean….  At some point I realised that I could only really be with men who were at least trying to be conscious, and that If they did not have any spiritual awareness- then we probably wouldn’t have much in common and would not be on equal footing. So since that that time I have only attracted ‘spiritual’ men into my romantic sphere, and really, that has been perhaps more challenging than I had bargained for…(hence the ‘pain in the arse bit).   And i am sure that many other women can relate to my observations.  Here are some key reasons why we both love ( and get completely frustrated by) our male counterparts on the spiritual path… They have a spiritual justification for friggin everything.  Oh goddess…. They can be a veritable encyclopaedia of spiritual knowledge. They will ruthlessly squash your feminine need for emotional connection under a spiritual concept. They will give you advaitic discourses and lectures on impermanence when you just want a hug. Basically, in the realm of words and ideas and spiritual concepts, he is in his comfort zone, and he may tend to hang out in that comfort zone with his spiritual concepts for company, as you ride the waves of emotional energy. If he stays on his spiritual high horse, you can well begin to feel like an un-evolved, over emotional and hopelessly ‘attached’ being as he ‘witnesses’ your process from an annoyingly detached standpoint. (Deep sigh). It is your stuff When you say something to the effect of “I feel sad because you………”. He says “Well! This must be the sadness you have in you already that is arising, its got nothing to do with me”.  It can become like a ping pong game with the ball always swiftly coming right back in your face even if you feel that you have sent out a particularly valid...

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The yoga of embodiment—3 essential tools for getting back into the body and your feminine power

Posted by on Sep 14, 2014

The yoga of embodiment—3 essential tools for getting back into the body and your feminine power

Do you tend to have a busy mind that takes up most of your attention? Have you wondered how you could ‘ get out of your mind’ and embody your femininity more? In my workshops I speak a lot about ‘ coming back into the body’ and many women have asked me what I mean by that… This has been a surprisingly hard question to answer despite the fact that, to me, the difference between being IN my body and NOT in my body is HUGE. One quick answer that I have come up with is that the opposite of being IN your body is being IN your head. Most women I encounter can relate to this busy mind syndrome, despite the fact most of us feel happiest and most fulfilled when we feel good in our bodies, and open and present to the fullness of that experience. So how do we come back to the body and reclaim that juicy experience we yearn for? Perhaps the most important thing to understand is that this tendency to focus our attention on our mental activity, is usually an unconscious effort to escape the feelings in our bodies; And that this cuts us off from our embodied wisdom and, in turn, our feminine power and succulence. Being IN your body means that you are aware of the continually changing sensations, feelings and sensations; both the obvious and subtle. The physical, the emotional, the energetic. It is the moment to moment openness to feel ‘Shakti’ (feminine life force) moving freely though our bodies. This is the yoga of embodiment, and it will transform your life. So lets break it on down… What happens when we get back IN our bodies? *The minds eternal dialogue becomes relegated to the background, where it belongs. We use our mind when we need it and the rest of the time we are available to the magic of aliveness in our bodies. *We learn to sense what we need, what is right for us and what isn’t. *WE learn to TRUST ourselves. *We get clearer boundaries. *We learn about the ways that we escape shut down to feeling and shut down to life. *Life gets juicier. Working with women over the years, I have noticed a common yearning to have more energy and intimacy in their lives and to live from an empowered place. Living IN our...

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Sharing the Sacred Succulence

Posted by on May 16, 2014

Sharing the Sacred Succulence

The way back home is only a sigh away…. the beauty and power of sacred succulence is the gift of aliveness we find within our own bodies when we take the time to pause, to feel, to activate and regenerate. It is possible to be full power and productive and restful, trusting and vital, all at the same time. The feminine path of surrender, sprinkled with sighs, laden with nourishment and infused with embodied presence, offers us a path of balance. and this nourishing medicine is exactly what myself and Rachel Ma share on our ‘Sacred Succulence’ retreats…. We have just finished an incredible week retreat, sighing, softening and surrendering  with some wonderful women here in Bali…and i bow down to the potency of a space created for nurture, exploration and celebration. I am amazed by the incredible transformation possible in the space of sisterhood. I bow down to the Tao Tantric Arts and transformational breathwork and all the other yummy tools we offer on our workshops and retreats. I bow down to the incredible beauty of Bali, the deliciousness of Soma’s live organic delicious food  and the inherent beauty and courageousness of women.      These shots of the retreat were taken by the amazing Zia Zeff; go to www.zia-zeff.com to see more of her incredible work! We are currently planning another retreat later on in the year…so stay tuned!  ...

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Getting wise to the mindf***

Posted by on Oct 31, 2013

Getting wise to the mindf***

But f*** why would i follow that train? Again and again i am reminded that in this moment i have so much power, there is always an opportunity to feel irritated/unworthy/hopeless/separate, even here in paradise my mind is perfectly happy to cough up some material that supports the idea that life is unsatisfactory/i am doomed for failure and eternal loneliness/ that it is all hopeless… So when i notice the negative mental look, i turn up the volume on the bhakti(devotion) and say THANK YOU for all that i have(so so blessed, to be here,in a womans body , with all this freedom and the wisdom to enjoy it), i spend time tuning into the whispers of my womb so that this inner voice is strengthened and ,hopefully, outweighs the mental chatter. I do my orgasmic manifestation to empower my vision and i liberally shower myself with golden smiling light. I also honour my sadness and other uncomfortable feelings, this bit can be hard but it is a very important part of the deal, when those deep feelings arise, i know there is something there to be listened to, that i cannot jump ahead and throw light strait onto it, i know it is my job to listen to the depths within, and so i do, i take the time, i do not take short cuts, i do not think they exist, i know that i will keep on projecting these feelings out into my external world and create situations that keep them alive until i just STOP and listen. And it always dissolves, it always dissolves when i offer it the gift of my loving awareness…that is all it wanted! And then! i turn up the volume on the devotion, the living breathing experience of NOW- and start all over again…… Today i went to see a famous balinese healer (Tjokorda Gde Rai) -what a dude! it is a deep honour to encounter a man like this. Obviously he has amazing skill and knowledge and decades of experience. But what he really left me with, was his cheshire cat smile and his message-dont worry! Note to self, i am not going to waste my energy following the wrong train( the one that always moves in the direction of hopelessness) instead i will do what this incredible shining light of a man reminded me to do and that is...

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