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Breaking down or cracking open?…How to find the gifts in personal crisis

Posted by on Jan 22, 2015

Breaking down or cracking open?…How to find the gifts in personal crisis

There comes a point when you have to choose to let that which does not work in your life break down, so that you may be cracked open to something bigger, wider, and truer… Many of us have been at that point, or are arriving at that point. We are getting that inner feeling that things gotta change, we have to slow down, let go, take stock. Maybe we need to start saying yes maybe we need to start saying a lot of NO, before we get to our yes It looks different for each of us, but one thing is almost certain , and that is that before we get to the juicy bit we probably have to travel for a while though very choppy waters indeed. There might be an earth quake or 2, or perhaps a desert to pass through. This might look like a ‘break down’ to those around you, Breaking down and cracking open, transformation and crisis….there certainly is a fine line between the two, and often they are misunderstood.. My message to any of you who are ‘going thought it’ this is a reminder that YOU ARE NORMAL AND IN FACT YOU ARE DOING GREAT. And i would also like to share with you some important tips to help you along your path as you traverse the rugged terrain of inner transformation. First of all i want to say THANK YOU FOR FEELING IT When we sign up to feel what we had been suppressing, to explore what triggers us, and embody the full whammy of what we are…we are not only serving our own deepening into truth and creating a more authentic life, we are also serving the collective.  I am no stranger to this radical reforming, and there have been many moments where I have wondered what the hell I was doing???why couldn’t i have signed up for a ‘normal life’ and not have to feel ALL THIS!!!….but from the other side of the waves of intensity I can consistently report that the process of breaking down has been an extraordinary process leading to a re birth that i could never imagine. If we are going though this intensive re shaping whilst in the west it is SO easy to feel like a mess, a failure, like something is wrong, if we went to a doctor at that time for sure we would be prescribed...

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Neediness…and how to deal with it….

Posted by on Nov 13, 2014

Neediness…and how to deal with it….

I am lying there in bed, dying to be cuddled, adored, loved…. He is oh so distant all the way on the other side of the bed. It hurts, I feel more alone than if I was alone. AAGGHHHH! Any efforts to bring him closer to me is likely to be rejected because he can sense that I am feeling NEEDY and he is reacting through retreating into his own space. This has been a re occurring horror story showing up occasionally in the landscape of my recent relationships. Sometimes it has looked like this. Other times it has showed itself when I am single in the form of incredibly strong waves or insecurity and the sense of needing validation that I am attractive, wanted, worthy…. Yes, I have had to accept that there is a part of me, which is, incredibly NEEDY! Neediness sucks; literally and figuratively…It feels like a bottomless pit of hopelessness. It keep us running, looking for ways to escape feeling this horrible feeling, It takes us to that deep vulnerable place where we believe that we are not enough and therefore need to suck up love and validation from others to fill the vacuum within. This feeling of needing could be attributed to the kind of men that I attract and their own issues. But at the same time, after seeing a repeat pattern, I cannot deny that this has got something to do with ME. So I have taken the opportunity to ‘get to know’ my own neediness in order to learn more about how I can relate to others from a place of fullness, rather than lack. This is not just about me, this is about all women (and to some extent, all men and women, we all have our stories of needs unmet). But because I am a woman, who works with women, and I am dedicated to exploring the depth and breadth of this experience of being a woman – and sharing it. And because every woman who I shared my shameful neediness story has sighed deeply and said something to the effect of ‘Neediness! I have that too! Isn’t it awful?’. Because of this I feel strongly impelled to share my exploration of neediness, how to accept it and how to somehow find the lessons and the gifts within it. And it is about me, it is about a...

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Sharing the Sacred Succulence

Posted by on May 16, 2014

Sharing the Sacred Succulence

The way back home is only a sigh away…. the beauty and power of sacred succulence is the gift of aliveness we find within our own bodies when we take the time to pause, to feel, to activate and regenerate. It is possible to be full power and productive and restful, trusting and vital, all at the same time. The feminine path of surrender, sprinkled with sighs, laden with nourishment and infused with embodied presence, offers us a path of balance. and this nourishing medicine is exactly what myself and Rachel Ma share on our ‘Sacred Succulence’ retreats…. We have just finished an incredible week retreat, sighing, softening and surrendering  with some wonderful women here in Bali…and i bow down to the potency of a space created for nurture, exploration and celebration. I am amazed by the incredible transformation possible in the space of sisterhood. I bow down to the Tao Tantric Arts and transformational breathwork and all the other yummy tools we offer on our workshops and retreats. I bow down to the incredible beauty of Bali, the deliciousness of Soma’s live organic delicious food  and the inherent beauty and courageousness of women.      These shots of the retreat were taken by the amazing Zia Zeff; go to www.zia-zeff.com to see more of her incredible work! We are currently planning another retreat later on in the year…so stay tuned!  ...

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Getting wise to the mindf***

Posted by on Oct 31, 2013

Getting wise to the mindf***

But f*** why would i follow that train? Again and again i am reminded that in this moment i have so much power, there is always an opportunity to feel irritated/unworthy/hopeless/separate, even here in paradise my mind is perfectly happy to cough up some material that supports the idea that life is unsatisfactory/i am doomed for failure and eternal loneliness/ that it is all hopeless… So when i notice the negative mental look, i turn up the volume on the bhakti(devotion) and say THANK YOU for all that i have(so so blessed, to be here,in a womans body , with all this freedom and the wisdom to enjoy it), i spend time tuning into the whispers of my womb so that this inner voice is strengthened and ,hopefully, outweighs the mental chatter. I do my orgasmic manifestation to empower my vision and i liberally shower myself with golden smiling light. I also honour my sadness and other uncomfortable feelings, this bit can be hard but it is a very important part of the deal, when those deep feelings arise, i know there is something there to be listened to, that i cannot jump ahead and throw light strait onto it, i know it is my job to listen to the depths within, and so i do, i take the time, i do not take short cuts, i do not think they exist, i know that i will keep on projecting these feelings out into my external world and create situations that keep them alive until i just STOP and listen. And it always dissolves, it always dissolves when i offer it the gift of my loving awareness…that is all it wanted! And then! i turn up the volume on the devotion, the living breathing experience of NOW- and start all over again…… Today i went to see a famous balinese healer (Tjokorda Gde Rai) -what a dude! it is a deep honour to encounter a man like this. Obviously he has amazing skill and knowledge and decades of experience. But what he really left me with, was his cheshire cat smile and his message-dont worry! Note to self, i am not going to waste my energy following the wrong train( the one that always moves in the direction of hopelessness) instead i will do what this incredible shining light of a man reminded me to do and that is...

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